John 5:28, 29 says that he hour is coming when all those in mans graves will hear the voice of Christ, and come out, back to life on earth as the account in John Chapter 11 shows us happened to a close friend of Christ's, Lazarus. Why would Christ bring Lazarus back to life on earth, if he were living in heaven after going there? jw.org will show. you more about, earthly resurrections.
there is no better memorial than that, to know that Jehovah God will undo all of the pain, and death we experience today, than to bring our dead loved ones back to life on earth for us. jw.org will help, as it does me, to understand the wonderful promises of the Bible. Please for now, though, accept my deepest sympathies, for the loss of your Santiago.