I invite you all to share your written memories and photos of Penny on this site. Penny was the most remarkable woman I have ever known, in addition to being my older—and only—sibling. Penny was extraordinary, as you know. But as a sister she was my best friend and a treasured, compassionate and nonjudgmental confidant. Her loss leaves a hole in my life that will never be filled.
Penny loved her job in Human Resources at the Diocese of Oakland and loved her colleagues. She was selfless in her work. There were many weekends when I would be visiting her that she would spend several hours on the phone talking to employees who were having problems and helping them negotiate possible solutions. I took many walks outside during those times—so much so that I know every nook and cranny of the community in which she lived. Penny wanted to be always accessible. Her business card listed her home phone number as well as her office number. She felt that she had a responsibility to her employees and that it was part of her mission to her faith. She lived her Christianity every day. She saw her disability from multiple sclerosis as another way to inspire those around her to face adversity with courage and love. I know how much Penny has meant to all of you.
My heart—which is so full right now—goes out to you as we all share in this great loss. How fitting for Penny to want engraved on her headstone, “All I ask of you is to remember me as loving you.”
We have lost part of our family, Penny has been there for the happy times and sad times. More happy than sad. She was also there to help, lending a hand or shoulder for over 40 years. She always knew what to do . She will be missed. There's another angel in heaven.
I will always remember my cousin , Penny, as a dear and loving member of our family. Her genuine concern and love for those of us who had a place in her life was constant. Penny was both family and friend, there for many of us who faced challenges while facing her own challenges over the years. Jean, she treasured you as the loving sister you were to her, I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so thankful I had the opportunity to know and work with Penny. She was truly an exceptional teacher, mentor and friend who despite her own hardships remained ever thoughtful of others. She shared her knowledge and wise advice. She was like a second mom to me and I miss her so much already. Rest in Peace, Dr. Pendola. You will be in my heart forever.
Penny was simply an amazing person. To do what she did for so long and do it so well under such enormously difficult circumstances is a testament to her great strength and character. She truly possessed that remarkable Pendola work ethic. And never, in all the years I knew Penny, did she express a single word of bitterness at the hand she had been dealt. We were so blessed to have her.
As a parishioner, Penny was enthusiastic, generous and supportive --
the kind of parishioner every pastor wants;
As a Diocesan official, Penny was responsive, competent and accurate -
the kind of leader every pastor needs;
As a friend, Penny was a blessing in my life.
When I think of Penny my thoughts always seem to be of wishing I got to know her better over the years. I knew Penny mostly through her family. Everyone who has ever known Penny has spoken of her as a gentle and kind soul. I must say it is our true loss that she is no longer with us but she will certainly not be forgotten.
-Much love to you in Heaven Penny.
Penny's choice of a headstone inscription says it all!. Penny's first love and loyalty was to her friends and she spent each day nurturing those friendships (and making new ones). I have thought about her and the years I have known her, worked with and for her and, yes, loved her. She will be missed tremendously and remembered just as ferociously! Rest, my friend, you deserve it.
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